An Excuse

Shortly after I married, I developed a habit of shortening the title of this article to: “scoose.” The word came in handy whenever my wife backtracked on an agreement that we had on what we might do. If she changed her mind without explanation, I did not utter the word. However, if she offered an explanation for the change, I sensed weakness, and I quietly muttered “scoose.” The first time I did that, magic happened!

She gave me a better justification. Then I said “scoose” again, with more surety, while we made eye contact. Magic happened once more. Justification transformed into accusation. Somehow I was culpable in this need for a change of plans. I said “scoose” a third time. Then, everything was clear to me. Explanation was the launch pad. The better justification was the rocket. Accusation was the fuel. Now, after I took it one “scoose” too far, anger was launched!

Since that early time, I say the word sparingly. I am still amazed that she knew what the word meant and reacted to it without my ever having explained it. Now, it is one of our little jokes. But, I think it has psychological possibilities. The word is a stimulus. With a single word, you might get a reaction. Yet, I have never taken this power outside of my family, until now. You know the word now. Perhaps I quarried it like a rough gem and you are the one to cut and shape it into a social game changer.

Try it at work, at church, or anywhere that you encounter people. When the opportunity arises, say it softly without explanation. See what you get. It is possible that you will spark a change of behavior that does some real good. Many folks do not want to be perceived as whiners. Even whiners, for the most part, believe that they accomplish tasks, get results, and add to the quality of a product or to life in general. When you say “scoose,” you communicate meaning to a whiner, a meaning that I cannot say in this article without getting a publishing rejection. I will say that the first part of that meaning begins with “bull.”

Forgotten Laws of Success Revealed to You Finally

The Forgotten Laws of Success have been hidden from main stream education for ages. Whether this has been deliberate or a coincidence is of little importance or significance, the fact of the matter is they are hereby revealed to you. In my studies of the laws of success it has come to my understanding that mankind has always been searching for the hidden secrets even principles and practices of those wise men who lived before them in order to separate themselves from the status quot, to develop the qualities of the man or woman of success, to become a leader taking their rightful place in society.

It is man’s prerogative to grow, to learn, to stretch himself beyond the limits of physical, mental, spiritual and psycological boundaries, and the only way to do that is to come into an awareness of the factors that transform us into what we desire to be.

Here are the forgotten laws revealed to you;

The Law of Thinking, many of the so called bad things that happen to us would not be so if we only thought about what we do and even say on a regular basis. Our thoughts are the seedlings of every act and spoken word and much more effort should be placed on this simple yet profound activity.

The Law of Supply, if we truly studied this law and understood it we would understand that there is no lack of anything. The universe is capable of supplying all our needs and desires on every level, hence as we grow, our needs are being met.

The Law of Attraction, there are two words that are of utmost importance with this law and those two words are desire and expectation. You must desire something and with that burning desire you must also have great expectation, that you will achieve your heart’s desire, they go hand-in-hand and this is an absolute truth.

The Law of Receiving, this one stumps most people but it is so simple and profound. It is based on God’s Law of Love and if you don’t understand love you will never understand God, herein lies the secret to the law of receiving. If you want to receive, you must become a giver, become a channel where gifts flow through you to enrich the lives of others and as you do that, your life in return is enriched. This is clearly stated in Luke 6:38 “Give, and it will be given to you, good measure, pressed down, shaken together, and running over will be put into your bosom. For the same measure that you use, it will be measured back to you.”

The Law of Increase, this law might make you want to raise your eyebrow, but it is also very simple. In essence it is saying, “when the praises go up, the blessing come down.” Learn to praise and give thanks for what you have with an attitude of gratitude. Stop complaining and whining, you have many things to be grateful for, identify them and be known as a “praiser,” your substance will be increased.

The Law of Compensation, our penal institutions all over the world are filled to capacity because men and women wrongfully think they can outwit this law. Do not be fooled for an instance, if you operate in a manner contrary to any of these laws, you will lose. As a matter of fact, you do not “break” any law, you confirm it. If you should jump from a fifty storey building, you do not break the law of gravity, you confirm it, ‘what goes up must come down”. This law simply states that you “reap what you sow”. Whether in thought or deeds and there is no getting around it, the law is absolute, all of God’s laws are absolute.

The Law of Non-Resistance, have you ever noticed how water just seem to flow off the back of a duck? its the way their feathers are designed. We need to develop this kind of “feather” in our character. When you do that, other peoples negative statements and mindset do not affect you. You will in time become impervious to even negative thoughts because you have fortified yourself with right thinking and a positive, right attitude.

The Law of Forgiveness is one of the most difficult laws, yet if we wish to be forgiven by others, we must in tern forgive those who have spitefully used us and done all manner of evil against us. This law requires great humility, patience and practice. We release ourselves from the emotional baggage, burden and bondage of hatred, un-forgiveness and vengeance, when we learn to forgive those who have done us wrong.

The Law of Sacrifice speaks to the “price one must pay for change”. Many wondering souls have stopped short of their dreams and life’s goal because they were not prepared to pay the required price for changing their situation or status. This law speaks to ones discipline in sticking to a task until it is achieved. You must never be found wavering or double-minded in your efforts, or else you will never win the prize. Learn to apply this law to you life and nothing will be impossible for you.

The Law of Obedience speaks to ones obedience to the laws of nature, the laws of God, to live a successful and meaningful life. Understanding these laws and remaining obedient to these universal principles is what separates a life lived successfully and a life lived filled with regret, remorse and disappointment.

The Law of Success, is a law I sometimes call the I Can law. This law speaks to your attitude. In other words, if you think you can you are right, if you think you can’t you are also right. This was one of the mantras of the great Henry Ford. Believe you are a winner and you will become a winner, but if you think you will lose you most certainly have already lost.

Are You Killing Your Sales With Your Headlines?

Have you ever wondered why some sites are so popular and have many visitors while other sites have none? Why are some sites bringing in tons of money but some sites fail to make a single cent? Why are some ads create excitement and selling like crazy while others make no impression to the readers? The answer could lie in your headlines.

When selling online, you need to create an impression fast or you would lose your customers immediately. If your headlines are not bringing you customers, then it is costing you sales.

A great headlines is a MUST.

How can you write a great headlines?

1. Learn from top internet marketers
Look at several top internet marketers websites and learn how their headlines draw customers. Get ideas from it before you start doing your own headlines.

2. Short Headlines
Your headlines need not be too long. Headlines with five to seven words is sufficient. Use sub-headlines to explain further in bullet points but keep your main headlines short to attract attention.

3. Create a stop action
Your headlines need to create a stop action from your readers so that they will stop long enough to consider looking into your websites. One of the way to do this, is to create question headlines.

4. Use question or exclamation marks in your headlines
You need to bring excitement or appeal to your readers emotion with your headlines. Examples: “Is your food killing you silently?”

5. Be specific and tell them what in it for them
Tell your readers how your product can help them. Be as specific as much as possible. Readers want to know what they can gain from your product.

6. Number steps formula
If your product can help to solve your readers’ problems in just a few simple steps, tell them so. Your readers will love it.

7. Use psycological trigger words
There are few words that trigger positive response from the readers. Examples of this words are ” free, secrets, tested, breakthrough, surefire,soar, growth, explosive and so on”. If you have a free product to be given, include that in your headline. It will attract your visitors’ eyes and lured them to read further.

8. Do not use all CAPITALs in your headlines
When you use all CAPITALs in your headlines, it makes your advertisement hard to be read. Your readers will not take the time to figure out what you are trying to say and just move on.

Use this few simple steps to improve your headlines and start to watch for more sales coming.

Breast Reconstruction After Lumpectomy or Mastectomy: Woman’s Legal Right To Psychological Recovery

About one out of every eight women will develop some form of breast cancer within their lifetime. In 2010 approximately 207,000 cases of invasive breast cancer were diagnosed, with another 54,000 non-invasive cases diagnosed. Although breast reconstruction is an optional process after mastectomy, with over 2.5 women who have beat this disease, more and more women are choosing to have breast reconstruction as a part of breast cancer treatment. In fact, over 93,000 breast reconstruction procedures were performed in 2010, an increase of almost 20% from the year before (1). In fact, breast reconstruction has been seen as being so critical to a woman’s recovery that in 1988, the Women’s Health and Cancer Rights Act (WHCRA) was passed. This law actually requires all insurance companies who offer mastectomy coverage to also provide for reconstructive surgery, including any adjustments to the opposite breast to achieve symmetry and revision surgeries to refine the breast shape and recreate the nipple.

For most women, the treatment of breast cancer really consists of three parts. The first part of treatment is Physiological and involves the physical surgical removal of the tumor. A general surgeon performs either lumpectomy surgery, which removes the tumor and a small amount of surrounding tissue, or a mastectomy, which removes all breast tissue from the chest. Sometimes radiation therapy is used in combination with lumpectomy or mastectomy to treat any cancer cells that potentially remain. The choice of either surgery is usually determined by the size of the tumor, the size of the breast, and the patient’s personal choice. The use of radiation is determined by the size of the tumor, tumor characteristics on biopsy, and what type of surgery is performed.

The second part of treatment is Pharmacological and includes chemotherapy in IV and/or pill form. Medications that modulate hormones are also sometimes used to reduce the risk of recurrence. This portion of the treatment can take anywhere from a few months to a year depending on chemotherapy drug choice, and tumor characteristics.

The final component of treatment is Psychosocial and includes all activities and treatments that help women to deal with their cancer and recovery. Studies have shown that breast reconstruction is important to helping women cope with cancer[2]. Because of this fact, breast reconstruction is a legally protected optional third part of treatment chosen by many women every year in the United States.

Breast reconstruction can be performed immediately after mastectomy or in a delayed manner, even months or years after mastectomy. There are several methods that can be used to reconstruct the breast, but they all fall under two main types – Flap reconstruction, which uses tissue from another part of the body, and Implant reconstruction, which uses a breast implant to recreate the breast. Sometimes a combination of both methods is used to get the best result possible.

Flap reconstruction uses muscle and fatty tissue from the back, tummy and occasionally other areas to create the breast mound. Skin can be transferred along with the other tissue when the chest skin has been damaged by infection, radiation, or a superficial tumor. Flap surgery requires a hospital stay of 3-7 days, leaves scars both on the breast and where the tissue was borrowed, and full recovery can take 2-3 months. Flap surgery has the benefit of avoiding an implant, but for patients who are very overweight or whose health is in poor condition, flap surgery may not be safe. Many women like that borrowing the tissue from the tummy is almost like having a tummy-tuck and that using tissue from the back can remove excess tissue that hangs over the bra straps.

Implant reconstruction has typically required two stages. During the first stage, a temporary implant (called a tissue expander) is inserted under the chest muscle. It is gradually filled with saline (IV fluid) after surgery through a needle that’s inserted into a special part of the expander. In order to get more fluid into the expander at the time of the first surgery, tissue grafts called Allografts are sometimes sewn to the bottom of the muscle to make more room. The allograft also provides more coverage for the bottom of the implant. Complications of implant reconstruction with radiation are almost 50%, and the allograft can decrease some of these complications ( capsular contracture, exposure of the implant, and wound healing problems).

Using the allograft, sometimes an implant can be placed at the time of surgery (single stage reconstruction). This can only be done if the skin is in good condition after mastectomy. If the blood flow to the skin is poor, the traditional technique of slowly inflating the implant will need to be used.

If radiation is going to be needed, tissue expanders can be placed followed by flaps or implants, depending on how the skin recovers from radiation.

Good Versus Evil and the Serial Killer – Psycological Discussion

What makes people become serial killers? Are people predispositioned to be evil people? Does a hard childhood help create the breeding ground for someone later to become a cold stone killer? Do serial killers feel remorse? Are killers redeemable? Wow, those are some hardcore questions aren’t they? Well, our think tank decided to take up the subject and try to find a solution. No, we didn’t find the solution, but we found that there are others who’ve spent their lives studying these things and are making some pretty decent headway on the subject. Let’s talk.

The questions above are real questions that we pondered. Yes, serial killers are fascinating, and then in some ways not. I’ve enjoyed reading up on those who hunt serial killers, and find it interesting too. Yes, Good VS. Evil is an interesting topic, one thing I find interesting as a non-religious person is how easy it is for someone to justify their actions because they are a ‘good person’ according to their faith, or that they’ve been forgiven for their deeds by their god.

That to me is somewhat problematic, worse those folks who have to pray 5-times a day to remind themselves to be good, ouch, and I don’t mean to say anything which might be construed as Islamaphobic, because I know that is a no-no, but, I find it all pretty unfortunate. Sharia Law for instance; stoning, honor killing, and what have you. Of course, I don’t for a minute forget the Salem With Trials, as my own ancestry was involved on both sides of that – witches and punishers.

Indeed, I wonder if cults, religion and such cause more damage to an otherwise healthy mind than they actually help aligning and organizing society in a positive way. And my ancestors at the Salem Witch Trials is one such example of the challenges of self-righteousness in the mind; “I am right, they are wrong, they are evil, I am good,” motif. No, not all serial killers ended up that way due to religion, but many mass killings had those components clouding judgment, dare to compare?

In studying such things I enjoyed watching all the YouTube Videos of detectives from the FBI chasing down serial killers and John Douglas book “Mind Hunter” as it was quite intriguing. I guess many people like detective novels. Perhaps everyone has some interest in this venue. Good guys, bad guys, justice, justification, rationalization and revenge – humans? Gotta love em’.

Not long ago, in researching this topic I ran across Professor Gwen Adshead if Gresham College in England, in one of her podcasts “The Criminal Mind: The Relationship Between Criminology and Psychology” she explains who often killers have compartmentalized what they’ve done and avoid thinking of themselves as the killer, thus they avoid remorse all together.

The scariest of all of this is that someone whom you know has the capacity to be a serial killer, someone you went to school with, works at the same company as you or lives in your neighborhood. What’s the funny line we always here when reporters ask about a neighbor that turned out to be a serial killer? “He seemed like such a nice guy.” Think on this.